Sunday, November 30, 2008

Lovely legumes

It's Sunday, which means it must be time for another recipe, eh? Last night was chilly with a hint of the snow flurries to come so I decided to make something hearty and rib-sticking. Since it was just Morgann and me I could cook something with legumes in it - Les and the three youngest are not big fans of beans, peas, lentils and the like, but Morgann and I are, so they tend to get cooked into recipes on Saturday nights when Les is at work and the three kidlets are at their dad's.

I looked around in the pantry, fridge and freezer and came up with the following. Partly because I had six chicken wings in the freezer for reasons I still don't understand. I don't remember buying them, and I don't really like wings by themselves. Partly because I have a bunch of leftover ham from Thanksgiving to use up (some more is going in scalloped potatoes tonight). I've seen similar recipes in various cookbooks, but I just "winged it" on my own (pun intended). Anyway, it turned out good.

Ingredients

  • 1 lb bag dried lentils
  • 6 (or so) chicken wings (thighs or legs would be good, too)
  • 4 oz ham, diced small
  • 1 onion, diced
  • 2 large carrots, diced
  • 2 stalks celery including leaves, diced fine
  • 4 oz fresh mushrooms, quartered
  • 8 cloves garlic, minced
  • ¼+ cup extra virgin olive oil
  • 1 15 oz can chicken stock
  • 1 15 oz can diced tomatoes and green chilies (do not drain)
  • ½ cup white wine
  • salt
  • pepper
  • 1 tsp cumin seed
Directions

Soak the lentils for 6-8 hours (probably not strictly necessary, but you'd have to increase the cooking time otherwise, and possibly the liquid in the recipe as well). Rinse and drain the lentils. Preheat oven to 350°. Snip the worthless ends off the chicken wings and discard.

In a 6 ½ qt Dutch oven fry the wings on both sides in the olive oil until the skin gets crisp and starts to turn a little brown. Set wings aside. Then sauté the garlic, onions and carrots in the oil until the onions start getting soft. Mix in the celery and mushrooms and cook just a bit longer. Stir in the white wine to deglaze the bottom of the pan. Remove from heat. Stir in the ham, lentils, tomatoes, chicken stock and spices. The liquid should not be enough to make the whole thing "soupy", but should come up to just under the top level of all the ingredients. Press the fried wings down into the mix around the edge of the Dutch oven. Cook covered in the oven for at least an hour (I ended up going 70 minutes). Serve with a baguette or other crusty bread.

Makes lots. Would easily serve six.

...and music still on MTV...(part 6)

And to end the month, a selection from the best concert movie, EVAH. [Are you going to argue against a Jonathan Demme flick? - I thought not.] This clip got as much airplay as Burning Down the House and is way better, IMHO. Especially the cinematography around the bridge of the song. Enjoy.

Saturday, November 29, 2008

Christmas is not my birthday

[Warning to my secular friends - this post contains references to my religious beliefs. Sorry about that.]


In a comment to my post yesterday, my blog friend Chris said:

yes! I almost posted it with my post yesterday because I liked it so much... where did you come across it? I read a good post that linked to the complete story, which had a comment that linked to it :) yeah... good stuff there.

It puts to visual what my thoughts have generally been for a few yrs, but I've also had a hard time speaking it to anyone.

I really wonder how to apply any of that...
Well, that got me thinking. It's one thing to put a video or a badge for a good cause up on my blog, it's another to actually do anything about it. How do we apply it? Well, here's what I have come up with. First, we are going to pick a charity as a family (the kids will have their say) and give something to that organization specifically for Christmas. Second, I just sent an email asking my family to forgo buying me any gifts this Christmas. They can certainly make me something - like homemade noodles or pie, say, both of which my mom and mom-in-law rock at (Mmm, noodles... Mmm, pie... :o)

Instead, here is the email I just sent asking that they give what they would have spent on me to a charity of their choice. Perhaps if you're interested you could do something similar yourself. I'm just sayin'. Peace.
Last year at Christmas time I was moved by a series of posts I read and wanted to ask my family not to get me anything for Christmas and instead donate it to something worthy, but I timed it too late. This year I have read and seen even more and feel strongly in my heart that I really need to say "No, but thanks." Knowing my mother I probably have timed it too late again. :o) But maybe there's still time.

I have enough "stuff". Really. I have books I haven't read, movies I haven't seen, CDs I haven't listened to, gadgets I haven't used, clothes I've rarely worn. And when I think of all that, I think of this:

"The bread which you do not use is the bread of the hungry; the garment hanging in the wardrobe is the garment of the one who is naked; the shoes you do not wear are the shoes of the one who is barefoot; the money you keep locked away is the money of the poor; the acts of charity you do not perform are so many injustices that you commit."
- St. Basil the Great, from The Call to Justice by Dorothy Harris

So, instead of buying me any presents for Christmas, in the true meaning of the season and in honor of Who it commemorates I would like to ask that you take any money you would have spent on me and:
In this time of global uncertainty and turmoil we need to give our love and resources to people in need even more than when times are good. For Jesus's sake:

"Then the King will say to those on his right, 'Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.'

"Then the righteous will answer him, 'Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?'

"The King will reply, 'I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.'

As for me and my holiday gift needs, I count on the present of your presence during the holiday season and year around, and that is more than enough. I have family, friends, health, shelter, food, water, safety, employment, transportation. I am rich. Thank you, God!

Thanks for listening, and please pass this along to anyone else that you know of who may be thinking of buying me anything. Let us celebrate this season by sharing with others the blessings we have and by keeping our eyes on what's truly important, which is not of this world.

Merry Christmas!

...and music still on MTV...(part 5)

The original:



But here's the one you really wanted: :o)

Friday, November 28, 2008

Amen

In "honor" of "Black Friday", made especially black by the Wal-Mart employee trampled to death this morning in Long Island, Erika supplies the completely appropriate quote:

“The bread which you do not use is the bread of the hungry; the garment hanging in the wardrobe is the garment of the one who is naked; the shoes you do not wear are the shoes of the one who is barefoot; the money you keep locked away is the money of the poor; the acts of charity you do not perform are so many injustices that you commit.”
- St. Basil the Great, from The Call to Justice by Dorothy Harris

I am reminded of one of the poems from Andrea that Pastor Dan pointed to a while back:
"I screamed at God for all the starving children,
and then I realized
that all of the starving children
were God screaming at me."
- Anonymous
God forgive us.

Christmas is not your birthday

I liked this video, and am already wondering how to change our Christmas around it:


[h.t. Sarah via Jeff.]

...and music still on MTV...(part 4)

Thursday, November 27, 2008

Thank you, God!

May your Thanksgiving bring you much joy and love. Sorta like this video! :o)

...and music still on MTV...(part 3)

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Monday, November 24, 2008

Jump on in!

Yesterday we raked ("raked" being a term than involved not just rakes but a leaf blower and bagging lawn mower) the prodigious amount of leaves our single oak tree produced yet again. It filled ten huge 42 gallon 3 mil "contractor" bags (they could double as body bags). That makes this actually a low year for leaf output. We've filled up to 17 such bags in years past.

Anyway, as reward, the kids got to jump in the big pile of leaves before we bagged them up. Jump in. Roll around. Swim through. Bury under.

Did you know that leaves are very hard to get out of long, fine blond hair?

Anyway, as a remembrance of the fleeting activities of youth, here are some pics:

Synonyms

Grace offers a great post on the topic of synonyms as applied to the church today. Bravo, well done!

Sunday, November 23, 2008

Time to learn where we stole all those words

If you're a word nerd like me, check out the Online Etymology Dictionary. I love the intro page:

This is a map of the wheel-ruts of modern English. Etymologies are not definitions; they're explanations of what our words meant and how they sounded 600 or 2,000 years ago.

The dates beside a word indicate the earliest year for which there is a surviving written record of that word (in English, unless otherwise indicated). This should be taken as approximate, especially before about 1700, since a word may have been used in conversation for hundreds of years before it turns up in a manuscript that has had the good fortune to survive the centuries.

[h.t. Jamis at Signal vs. Noise]

Go play and frolic in the Greek and Latin roots. The Old German, Old Dutch, Old French citations. The blatant ripoffs from various indigenous peoples the Brits and Americans colonized, traded with or wiped out. The infusions of various "cutting edge" technologies and trademarks, some centuries old, that end up becoming lowercase everyday words (did you google today?)

I laugh at people who want to keep a language "pure". I've long liked this quote about English:
The problem with defending the purity of the English language is that English is about as pure as a cribhouse whore. We don't just borrow words; on occasion, English has pursued other languages down alleyways to beat them unconscious and rifle their pockets for new vocabulary.
- James D. Nicoll

Saturday, November 22, 2008

Orlando from 6 feet up

Some more shots of Orlando, mostly of the convention center grounds.

Friday, November 21, 2008

Welcome home

So, I picked up the kids from school and even though I am very tired I am was in a good mood. Erin was primed for bickering before we even got in the truck (over who got to sit up front). But whatever. I got that squelched calmed with no residual splatter on my good mood. On the way home I cheerfully asked, "Hey, kids! Do you know what you have to do tonight?"

"Chores?"

"Nope."

"Laundry?"

"Nope."

"Then what?"

"Absolutely nothing. It's the weekend and you have chores to do tomorrow, but tonight you can do whatever you want!" I was feeling all good Dad and everything about just letting them have an evening of hanging out, being kids. You know:

"Michael, I did nothing. I did absolutely nothing, and it was everything that I thought it could be."
- Peter Gibbons
Then within five minutes of getting home Erin and Jon were in a fight over computer game CDs that devolved down to a pushing and shoving match, and even with Gloria's help (she's pretty smart and stays out of most of the range wars in the county) I couldn't figure out who started it or who was to blame or who...arggggg! "You're both grounded!" Because I can't let pushing and shoving go without intervention. And yet they're still upstairs arguing. Sigh. I really don't want to go up and be an ogre, but it's my weekend too, ya know?

[Postscript: they seemed to have calmed down now. Good, because infanticide is still illegal in 49 states and the District of Columbia. Maybe I can even go up and relax the grounding a bit, 'cause I really hate being the disciplinarian all the time. :o) ]

Thursday, November 20, 2008

Signs of trouble



You could subtitle this "Orlando from underwater." These aren't even all the signs that were at that particular intersection. A year or more ago in most cities across the country such signs would have been for lawn mowing, house cleaning and the like. These were all for bankruptcy, mortgage re-fi's, hauling off junk cars, buying broken appliances for scrap and the like.

The conference's charter shuttle bus driver said business is way down - he's working two days a week instead of seven. The hotel (a very nice Marriott) sent a vmail offering a great deal good for the next year if I just replied today. Signs of trouble in paradise.
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Wednesday, November 19, 2008

Orlando from 250 feet up

I'm on the 24th floor of the Orlando World Center Marriott. Here's the view.

Tuesday, November 18, 2008

Hands off!


[h.t.Heather]

I belong to a sparkling club

The other day I linked to a site that tracks regional variations in what people in the U.S. call soft drinks. There are basically three versions - soda, pop and coke. But that pales in comparison to a terminology issue I sometimes run in to at restaurants and bars. Les and I both drink a lot of carbonated water. We go through eight (or more) liters a week. We find it settles the stomach and is refreshing (and cheap). But here's the deal - there are more generic names for carbonated water than there are for pop, er, I mean soda.


The Wiki article lists many of them, and I've heard most of them in use somewhere or other:
Carbonated water, also known as sparkling water, fizzy water and seltzer 
is plain water into which carbon dioxide gas has been dissolved...Club soda may be identical to plain carbonated water or it may contain a small amount of table salt, sodium citrate, sodium bicarbonate, potassium bicarbonate, potassium sulfate, or disodium phosphate, depending on the bottler...In the US, carbonated water was commonly known by the name of soda water until World War II. During the Great Depression, it was also referred to as two cents plain, a reference to its place as the cheapest drink available at the soda fountain. In the 1950s new terms such as sparkling water and seltzer water began to be used. The term seltzer water is a genericized trademark that comes from the German brand Selters, which is produced and bottled in Nieder-Selters, Germany.
So, when I buy it at the store the bottles usually say "seltzer" or "club soda". Some brands of club soda do indeed have sodium in them (and hence I don't buy them 'cause Les doesn't want the extra salt) and some don't. Odd. But when I go to a restaurant I often get a blank stare when I order "seltzer". Or "carbonated water". And I don't want to say "club soda" because that may mean something I have to pay for (i.e., a bottle of Canada Dry mixer), and what I really want is just some plain carbonated water out of the bar hose, which usually is free. Using the words "soda water" and pantomiming dispensing from the bar hose typically does the trick. In England it was easy because "sparkling water" was universal (and universally cost money, because in Europe you have to pay for everything).

Anyway, you'd never think something so simple would have so many names!

Monday, November 17, 2008

I gotta go P!

[Warning: This is one of my infrequent theology posts.]

Lately three of the blogs I follow have me praying to experience "the three P's" - purpose, people and passion.

Purpose

I could count multiple bloggers who have great purpose but at the top of my list right now is Ruth, who I met through Paul (because she's his better half). Ruth is founder and figurehead (her word) of GTI:

What Is GTI?

GTI stands for "GTI".

A couple of years ago, my band was looking for a location in town to hold our worship concerts and a friend connected us with the manager of a Motel, weekly/monthly accommodation for folks who can't afford first and last, deposit on the phone, credit check etc. He let us use the room for free. Partly because there are no washrooms or other running water, other than the brown stuff that comes in through the roof.

Residents of the motel would come to the concerts, but we realized we weren't getting to know them at all and started praying and talking about alternatives.

Short version: In the fall of 2006 we started having pot luck dinners once a week, serving between 25 and 40 people. Since then our Dinner team has grown from 3 contributors to 12, including people who live there and people who don't.

Our new friends are all very low income and the motel is, for many, the last alternative they have to the street. The building is badly neglected and deteriorating.

We have church on Sunday mornings, with brunch once a month, and Dinner on Wednesdays and it's awesome.
As I read her blog I have come to realize that "purpose" does not have to mean "program" or "perfect" or even "practical". It just has to be, well, purposeful. And prayerful. And people-full. All the rest then falls into place.

People

I have written multiple times about how much I admire Erika and her husband Douglas, living and raising their family in South Central L.A. as part of a church plant. The thing that always comes through in her posts is how much the people around her - her family, her church, her neighborhood - mean to her, and her to them:

A few weeks ago there was a shooting around the corner from our apartment, and in the chaos of the aftermath, one of our youth was nabbed by the police as he ran down Kenwood to go and check on some friends. The officers grabbed him, threw him to the ground, twisted his arm badly enough to hurt his wrist, and kept him in the back of a cruiser for a fair amount of time.

As this friend shared with us about his experience of being detained and trying to speak in his own defense to the officers involved, he told us that the thing he kept repeating to the officers was this: “I am a youth leader at Church of the Redeemer. Please, just go talk to Elliot, or Lauren, or Doug and Erika. Call Pastor Danny. Talk to the church, please. They can vouch for me.”

As unfortunate as this young man’s experience was, it made my heart glad to hear how much stock he placed in his identity with us. As frustrated as I was by the injury to his hand, I was impressed by his sense of belonging to us, and that in his mind that was such a powerful and persuasive thing. That by proclaiming his association with us, he was declaring that he was set apart; different. And in that moment of pain and fear and crisis, we were the ones he expected to come to his aid; to draw near and fight on his behalf.

Erika very much reminds me of where I am remiss - I want to help people, but so far all my attempts have been of the "helicopter mission" type. Swoop in, do some random act of good, fly out. I cannot name anyone truly disadvantaged as a personal friend. Their stories are unknown to me. That needs to change. Permanently.

Passion

My young blogging friend Chris has been writing about wanting to be more passionate in helping the poor:

What struck me was their halfheartedness in the effort! I feel like Peter could have said “Do it or don’t do it, but dude if you’re going to do it, do it ALL THE WAY!”.

It reminded me of some verses from Revelation:

“I know all the things you do, that you are neither hot nor cold. I wish that you were one or the other! But since you are like lukewarm water, neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth!

They were lukewarm. Not hot; not cold. It sure seems like they were “spit out”, didn’t they? This gets to the heart of what I desire for my life - to not be half-hearted; to not be lukewarm. “Give me a Hunger” Lord - guide me and direct me WITH A PASSION, a ZEAL, a DESIRE for You.

What I am finding (and continue to be shown) is that this heavily involves me being deeply involved with others. Not so much in doing things, but connecting with others. Such as the homeless or my g-men (growth group/”wild guys on fire”). This I believe is my passion (now I need to pursue it… and get guidance & wisdom from others on it).

What is yours? And are you working to pursue it with passion? Not half-heartedly; not lukewarm but HOT! Because if not, seriously you may want to just stay cold…

Chris continuously reminds me that the purpose of being with people is not penitence nor punishment - it's the whole point!

May God grant me the passion to pursue His purpose for helping people, but more importantly to come to know and love them for them, images of Him every one. Perfect.

Peace.

Spice of life

Here is a list of the spices, herbs and flavorings I like to keep on hand, and unlike many people's neglected rack of 20 year old dusty spice jars I actually use most of them fairly regularly (I don't like to waste cabinet space on stuff I don't use and so purge such things fairly regularly). In fact, most of our herbs and spices are in tubs, not jars. I buy a lot of them in bulk. And I am growing some of others - entries marked with a are supplied at least partially out of our herb garden, although demand typically outstrips supply. Ultimately I would like to raise all the ones I can in my growing zone (5b), since most herbs and spices are fairly high-cost items but add so much to cooking that I can't imagine living without them.

[This list doesn't cover the various powders used solely for causing certain chemical reactions - baking powder, baking soda, cream of tartar, etc.]

  • Allspice (whole and ground)
  • Annatto (ground - mostly for coloring)
  • Basil (dried and fresh)
  • Bay leaf
  • Cardamom seed
  • Cayenne
  • Celery seed
  • Chili peppers (whole dried†, chopped into flakes† as needed)
  • Chili powder (I know, I know - I should be making my own)
  • Chives (dried and fresh)
  • Cilantro (fresh†)
  • Cinnamon (stick and ground)
  • Cloves (whole and ground)
  • Coriander seed
  • Cumin (seed and ground)
  • Curry powder (I know, I know - I should be making my own)
  • Dill (seed and weed)
  • Fennel seed
  • Garlic (fresh and powder - I prefer the fresh, but sometimes the powder comes in handy)
  • Ginger (fresh and ground)
  • Horseradish (prepared)
  • Lavender
  • Marjoram (dried and fresh)
  • Mustard (seed, ground, prepared)
  • Nutmeg (ground)
  • Onion (dried flakes)
  • Oregano (dried and fresh)
  • Paprika
  • Pepper (whole and coarse ground)
  • Peppermint
  • Poppy seed
  • Rosemary
  • Sage (whole dried, crumbled on demand)
  • Salt
  • Sesame seed
  • Spearmint
  • Summer Savory
  • Tarragon
  • Thyme (dried and fresh)
  • Vanilla extract
Saffron would be in there if I could afford it. I used to cook paella with it once in a while and it certainly adds something to the flavor but is just too expensive to justify any more.

What spices and herbs do you like to use?

Sunday, November 16, 2008

Toasted onion flakes

One of the most-used garnishes/condiments at our table is homemade toasted onion flakes. They're easy, yummy, go with a lot of different foods and everyone likes them. To make these economically it is best to buy dried onion flakes in bulk. I buy them and most of my spices at a local Mennonite food store. While such stores around here can be high on some items because they know they have tourist value (Amish pickles like what I canned by the quart cost $5-$6 a pint in such stores), on bulk spices and herbs they can't be beat. I pay $5 a pound for dried onion flakes at Shirks. Compare that to $2.50 for large 5 ounce jars at the store that shall not be named.

Ingredients

  • 1 cup dried onion flakes
Directions

In a small skillet toast the onion flakes over medium heat, stirring fairly constantly. You want them to turn brown - the browner they get, the more flavorful (and crunchy). We like ours pretty dark, even with a few blackened flakes mixed in. Note that you want to remove them from the heat before they are to the color you want because they will continue to darken and toast for five minutes or more afterward (and need a few more stirs while they're cooling). Let cool and store in airtight container at the dinner table. Keeps for weeks.

Seedy potatoes

Last night I was all alone in the house, a very rare occurrence. Les was in Kansas City after being in the delivery room with her sister for our new niece's arrival. Erin, Jon and Gloria were at their dad's for the weekend. And Morgann stayed over night at a (female, thank you very much :o) friend's house, one of the girls women she's made friends with in her honors program at college. So I listened to Prairie Home Companion while cooking and then listlessly tried to watch a movie (three, actually - none of them caught my fancy enough to sit through). For all that I am an introvert and appreciate the solitude, I ended up being kinda lonely. Go figure.

Anyway, since I was cooking for just me I decided I wouldn't buy anything special while grocery shopping and would just make something out of what we had on hand. I ended up doing a vegan thing, although that wasn't my goal at the outset (I was a cheese-and-eggs vegetarian in the late 1980s and the way meat prices are going we may be going back to some of that at least a few times a week just to save money). After a lot of hemming and hawing I created something inspired by a few potato dishes I've had over the years, mainly potato curry and patatas bravas, but I believe my creation is original (to me). I call it "seedy potatoes". You'll find out why.

Side note: While making this last night I was thinking that globalization has been going on for a long time. Consider all the native food plants from the Americas (North and South) that are now found around the world. Potatoes, for one, which I've had in as widely varied cuisines as Spanish tapas and Indian curry and which the Irish starved over. Tomatoes. Corn (maize). Peppers (hot and sweet). Squash. Sweet potatoes. Avocados. All from the Americas, all now spread around the globe (of course, so is tobacco...sorry about that!) The other weird thing is that for all those food crops that were rapidly adopted everywhere, there were no major domesticated meat animals from here (mmm - fried guinea pig, anyone?). But I digress.

Ingredients

  • 8 small red (I like "grade B") potatoes, diced (do not peel - I almost never peel potatoes)
  • 4 carrots, peeled and chopped
  • 1 small yellow onion, chopped
  • 8 cloves garlic, minced
  • 2 stalks celery, diced fine
  • 15 oz can tomato sauce
  • ¼-½ cup wine
  • 2-4 Tbs extra virgin olive oil
  • Salt
  • Pepper
Seeds

[All the seeds are whole, not ground.]
  • 2 Tbs sesame seeds
  • 1 tsp coriander seeds
  • 1 tsp mustard seeds
  • 1 tsp caraway seeds
  • 1 tsp fennel seeds
  • 1 tsp cumin seeds
Garnishes
Directions

Preheat oven to 350°. In a 3 ½ quart enamel Dutch oven or other heavy oven-safe pot fry the potatoes, carrots, onions, garlic and celery in the olive oil for five minutes or so, so that the onions just start to turn translucent. Meanwhile, in a small frying pan toast all the seeds over medium heat. You don't want them to turn color but just to bring the flavor out and make them a bit crunchy (I put a screen lid over them and when the mustard seeds began to pop I turned the heat off but left the pan on the burner). Pour the tomato sauce and wine into the Dutch oven and then add the toasted seeds and salt and pepper to taste. Stir well, cover and bake for 50 minutes. Would serve 4-6 people as a side dish, 1-2 as a main dish. Good served cold the next day, too.

This dish would make a good substitute for patatas bravas although it is a different flavor and the seeds give it a different texture.

Saturday, November 15, 2008

"Ya wanna soda, Pop?"

What word do you use to describe soft drinks in general? "Soda"? "Pop"? "Coke"? Something else? (like "soft drinks"?) It turns out to be largely a function of where you grew up. I personally vacillate between "pop" (formative years in Iowa and Colorado) and "soda" (14 years of my adult life being spent in central Missouri).

[Click to view full image at original site.]


[h.t. Coding Horror]

Friday, November 14, 2008

A snippet on sin

I love Kathleen Norris. I have read four of her books (and she has a new book out - awesome!), and am currently re-reading Dakota. While I don't read much poetry, I love her poet's sensibility as she looks honestly at life and her long, winding path back to God, which speaks to my journey and heart.


I was reading something just the other night that fit with a pair of posts from Jeff that ask, "What is sin?" I usually don't like to reward Jeff when he's theologizing (inside joke :o), but I thought the following meditation from Dakota was worth considering:
In the early 1970s, when I was just out of college, working in New York City and hovering on the fringe of the Andy Warhol scene, a question crept into my consciousness one day, seemingly out of the blue: "What is sin?" I thought I should know, but my mind was blank. I felt like the little boy in The Snow Queen who, as he's being carried off in the Queen's carriage tries desperately to remember the Lord's Prayer but can think of nothing but multiplication tables.

"What is sin?" It never occurred to me to go to a church for the answer. If the church hadn't taught me in my first twenty years what sin was, it probably never would.

...

But trust in the religious sphere has been hard to come by. Like many Americans of my baby boom generation, I had thought that religion was a constraint that I had overcome by dint of reason, learning, artistic creativity, sexual liberation. Church was for little kids or grandmas, a small-town phenomenon that one grew out of or left behind. It was a shock to realize that, to paraphrase Paul Simon, all the crap I learned in Sunday school was still alive and kicking inside me. I was also astonished to discover how ignorant I was about my own religion. Apart from a few Bible stories and hymns remembered from childhood I had little with which to start to build a mature faith. I was still that child in The Snow Queen, asking "what is sin?" but not knowing how to find out. Fortunately a Benedictine friend provided one answer: "Sin, in the New Testament," he told me, "is the failure to do concrete actions of love." That is something I can live with, a guide in my conversion. It's also a much better definition of sin than I learned as a child: sin is breaking rules.

Comprehensible, sensible sin is one of the unexpected gifts I've found in the monastic tradition. The fourth-century monks began to answer a question for me that the human potential movement of the late twentieth century never seemed to address: if I'm O.K. and you're O.K., and our friends (nice people and, like us, markedly middle-class, if a bit bohemian) are O.K., why is the world definitely not O.K.? Blaming others wouldn't do. Only when I began to see the world's ills mirrored in myself did I begin to find an answer; only as I began to address that uncomfortable word, sin, did I see that I was not being handed a load of needless guilt so much as a useful tool for confronting the negative side of human behavior.

The desert monks were not moralists concerned that others behave in a proper way so much as people acutely aware of their own weaknesses who tried to see their situation clearly without the distortions of pride, ambition, or anger. They saw sin (what they called bad thoughts) as any impulse that leads us away from paying full atention to who and what we are and what we're doing, any thought or act that interferes with our ability to love God and neighbor. Many desert stories speak of judgment as the worst obstacle for a monk. "Abba Joseph said to Abba Pastor: 'Tell me how I can become a monk.' The elder replied: 'If you want to have rest here in this life and also in the next, in every conflict with another say, "Who am I?" and judge no one.'"

One of my favorite monastic stories in this regard concerns a desert monk who is surprised to hear that a gardener in a nearby city has a way of life more pleasing to God than his own. Visiting the city he finds the man selling vegetables, and asks for shelter overnight. The gardener, overcome with joy to be of service, welcomes the monk into his home. While the monk admires the gardener's hospitality and life of prayer, he is disturbed to find that the vulgar songs of drunks can be heard coming from the street, and asks the gardener: "Tell me, what do you conceive in your heart when you hear these things?" The man replies, "That they are all going to the kingdom." The old monk marvels and says, "This is the practice which surpasses my labor of all these years. Forgive me, brother, I have not yet approached this standard." And without eating, he withdraws again into the desert.
- Kathleen Norris, Dakota

Thursday, November 13, 2008

Don't you just hate that?

Last night was the second meeting of the Mid-Missouri .NET User's Group that I started this past summer to get some discussion going among peers here in the middle of nowhere (the closest user's groups before that were two hours away). It has actually turned out to be a bigger group than I thought it would be, and we are close to 50 members in the online group and had 23 people show up at our first "real" (non-organizing) meeting in September. I thought that qualified as a success, given where we are.

Most people want the meetings to be during the day because they can take a bit of time off of work, don't have to deal with child care or dinner or what not. But there was one person who was very vocal about not being able to ever get away from work during the day, ever (boss wouldn't let him, blah, blah, blah) and could we please have some meetings at night? We took a poll about various things including meeting times and enough answered they could make it at night that we decided to run an experiment of having an evening meeting, which happened last night. Six people showed, including myself and the presenter. And while it was a good meeting and we had a good discussion, I don't think we're going to do another evening meeting. "Greatest good for the greatest number" and all that.

But here's the thing. The guy that whined about not being able to get off during the day? Yeah. He didn't show.

Grrrr....

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

A follow-up on the color purple

Jenny Darrah has posted a great graph over at GraphJam that shows a lot of what I was trying to say here:
song chart memes
more music charts

Free Will(y)

I feel compelled to take a minute to let you know that theologically I am thoroughly an Arminian (although strangely enough I choose not to be a Methodist). Thou mayest consider me a heretic if you wish (or I guess I should say it more accurately, "if God makes you wish it"). But to my predestined friends, do not worry, I choose to still like you!

:o)

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

We shall rise up, singing

[Photo courtesy John Beniston, licensed under Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 License.]

In Flanders Fields 

In Flanders fields the poppies blow 
Between the crosses row on row, 
That mark our place; and in the sky 
The larks, still bravely singing, fly 
Scarce heard amid the guns below.

We are the Dead. Short days ago 
We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow, 
Loved and were loved, and now we lie 
In Flanders fields.

Take up our quarrel with the foe: 
To you from failing hands we throw 
The torch; be yours to hold it high. 
If ye break faith with us who die 
We shall not sleep, though poppies grow 
In Flanders fields.
- Lieutenant Colonel John McCrae, MD (1872-1918), Canadian Army

[Looked hard for an online version of the Big Head Todd and the Monsters song version of this but couldn't find it.]

R U U IRL 2?

Today Erin asked the question from Rahab's Kitchen, "Are you the same person online as you are in real life?" In the comments on the Kitchen, Barbara then stole my answer. Which is,

"Yes."

"No."

"Maybe."

"Yes", in that when I write something here I try to write it honestly and from my heart. I am trying to figure some things in life out as I go and open up about them here to help myself focus and to also hear what others think (and by the way, the vast majority of comments left here are constructive and positive - thank you for that). And in "the real world" I am known for being "open". "Direct". "Blunt".

"No" because while many commenters praise me for my openness and honesty I certainly don't post everything that goes through my head nor all the details of my life here. For one, some people at work read this (hi Patrick and Amy!). So I am usually pretty circumspect about what I post about my job. For another, there are lots of days where I am just not that proud of myself or my thoughts and actions. Sometimes I hold those days up to the light and talk about my failures here, but often I don't. So you get to see a filtered view of me that is probably more positive than I am "in real life".

"Maybe" because as time goes on this place becomes more and more an interchange with friends. When I started this blog in the spring of 2007 I used a pseudonym. I had a lot to get off my chest and wasn't sure I wanted it to be tied back to me. As time went on that anonymity bugged me and I finally decided "Fuck it, I am going to uncloak and be me out here for all to see." And so far that hasn't come back to bite me. Maybe some day it will (flashes forward to future job interview, which is going well until the HR person says, "What you just answered about how you work as part of a team doesn't jibe with your comment on your blog from February 26, 2008. Would you care to explain that?") But I enjoy the conversations here and I think being "real" helps that.

So, "R U U IRL 2?"

Monday, November 10, 2008

My eyes! [claw, claw]

Click the picture below to get a big, heaping serving of hot Swedish meatballs dance bands from the 1970s.



[h.t. Brant Hansen and Jeff Atwood.]

It's a major award!

 
Yes, folks - I won this. I found out about it on Friday and received it today. I took a survey about using VMWare on Linux back in the summer, and ended up winning one of five Nintendo Wiis they were giving away. I almost didn't, though - the email I got on Friday was to inform me they had notified me back in August and that if I didn't respond in two days they would give it to someone else! I guess the first notification mail must have gotten eaten by a spam filter. Anyway, I hurriedly got in contact with them and...here it is! Christmas for the kids has now been officially taken care of, other than for more games, controllers and whatnot (and no, they don't know about it - otherwise it wouldn't be Christmas! :o). Although since we don't watch TV in our house (no cable, not even broadcast) the kids' TV is a whopping 12", so the experience will be a bit "constrained". But they'll get over it.
Unfortunately neither the shipping box nor the Wii packaging itself has the word "Fragile" on it, so I couldn't exclaim "Fra-gee-lay. That must be Italian!" when it showed up at work today.

Sunday, November 9, 2008

Decent hot salsa (or is it hot sauce?)

I made the following last night and froze most of it. Am eating some of the remainder on leftovers right now. I'd rate the heat about a "5" - YMMV. Tastes good.

  • 40 fresh jalapeños
  • 10 fresh habaneros
  • 10 fresh tabascos
  • 10 cloves garlic
  • juice from two fresh limes
  • ¼-½ cup vinegar
  • salt
Throw all the ingredients into a food processor or blender and puree until it has a smooth (if somewhat seedy) consistency. Refrigerate or freeze for later. Serve on whatever.

And thus were the last fresh peppers from the garden enjoyed.

Timshel

[I don't read a lot of fiction any more. I don't feel the need for artificial drama and conflict supplements for my life. But over the years I've read and re-read some great books. Catch-22. The Glass Bead Game. The Last Temptation of ChristGravity's Rainbow. And East of Eden. The following is excerpted from the latter, and forms the crux of the entire book. I highly recommend reading it. I have a reason for posting the following that I hope to write about soon. In the meantime, may you enjoy this.]

“Do you remember when you read us the sixteen verses of the fourth chapter of Genesis and we argued about them?”

“I do indeed. And that’s a long time ago.”

“Ten years nearly,” said Lee. “Well, the story bit deeply into me and I went into it word for word. The more I thought about the story, the more profound it became to me. Then I compared the translations we have—and they were fairly close. There was only one place that bothered me. The King James version says this—it is when Jehovah has asked Cain why he is angry. Jehovah says, ‘If thou doest well, shalt thou not be accepted? and if thou doest not well, sin lieth at the door. And unto thee shall be his desire, and thou shalt rule over him.’ It was the ‘thou shalt’ that struck me, because it was a promise that Cain would conquer sin.”

Samuel nodded. “And his children didn’t do it entirely,” he said.

Lee sipped his coffee. “Then I got a copy of the American Standard Bible. It was very new then. And it was different in this passage. It says, ‘Do thou rule over him.’ Now this is very different. This is not a promise, it is an order. And I began to stew about it. I wondered what the original word of the original writer had been that these very different translations could be made.”

Samuel put his palms down on the table and leaned forward and the old young light came into his eyes. “Lee,” he said, “don’t tell me you studied Hebrew!”

Lee said, “I’m going to tell you. And it’s a fairly long story. Will you have a touch of ng-ka-py?”

“You mean the drink that tastes of good rotten apples?”

“Yes. I can talk better with it.”

“Maybe I can listen better,” said Samuel.

While Lee went to the kitchen Samuel asked, “Adam, did you know about this?”

“No,” said Adam. “He didn’t tell me. Maybe I wasn’t listening.”

Lee came back with his stone bottle and three little porcelain cups so thin and delicate that the light shone through them. “Dlinkee Chinee fashion,” he said and poured the almost black liquor. “There’s a lot of wormwood in this. It’s quite a drink,” he said. “Has about the same effect as absinthe if you drink enough of it.”

Samuel sipped the drink. “I want to know why you were so interested,” he said.

“Well, it seemed to me that the man who could conceive this great story would know exactly what he wanted to say and there would be no confusion in his statement.”

“You say ‘the man.’ Do you then not think this is a divine book written by the inky finger of God?”

“I think the mind that could think this story was a curiously divine mind. We have had a few such minds in China too.”

“I just wanted to know,” said Samuel. “You’re not a Presbyterian after all.”

“I told you I was getting more Chinese. Well, to go on, I went to San Francisco to the headquarters of our family association. Do you know about them? Our great families have centers where any member can get help or give it. The Lee family is very large. It takes care of its own.”

“I have heard of them,” said Samuel.

“You mean Chinee hatchet man fightee Tong war over slave girl?”

“I guess so.”

“It’s a little different from that, really,” said Lee. “I went there because in our family there are a number of ancient reverend gentlemen who are great scholars. They are thinkers in exactness. A man may spend many years pondering a sentence of the scholar you call Confucius. I thought there might be experts in meaning who could advise me.

“They are fine old men. They smoke their two pipes of opium in the afternoon and it rests and sharpens them, and they sit through the night and their minds are wonderful. I guess no other people have been able to use opium well.”

Lee dampened his tongue in the black brew. “I respectfully submitted my problem to one of these sages, read him the story, and told him what I understood from it. The next night four of them met and called me in. We discussed the story all night long.”

Lee laughed. “I guess it’s funny,” he said. “I know I wouldn’t dare tell it to many people. Can you imagine four old gentlemen, the youngest is over ninety now, taking on the study of Hebrew? They engaged a learned rabbi. They took to the study as though they were children. Exercise books, grammar, vocabulary, simple sentences. You should see Hebrew written in Chinese ink with a brush! The right to left didn’t bother them as much as it would you, since we write up to down. Oh, they were perfectionists! They went to the root of the matter.”

“And you?” said Samuel.

“I went along with them, marveling at the beauty of their proud clean brains. I began to love my race, and for the first time I wanted to be Chinese. Every two weeks I went to a meeting with them, and in my room here I covered pages with writing. I bought every known Hebrew dictionary. But the old gentlemen were always ahead of me. It wasn’t long before they were ahead of our rabbi; he brought a colleague in. Mr. Hamilton, you should have sat through some of those nights of argument and discussion. The questions, the inspection, oh, the lovely thinking—the beautiful thinking.

“After two years we felt that we could approach your sixteen verses of the fourth chapter of Genesis. My old gentlemen felt that these words were very important too—‘Thou shalt’ and ‘Do thou.’ And this was the gold from our mining: ‘Thou mayest.’ ‘Thou mayest rule over sin.’ The old gentlemen smiled and nodded and felt the years were well spent. It brought them out of their Chinese shells too, and right now they are studying Greek.”

Samuel said, “It’s a fantastic story. And I’ve tried to follow and maybe I’ve missed somewhere. Why is this word so important?”

Lee’s hand shook as he filled the delicate cups. He drank his down in one gulp. “Don’t you see?” he cried. “The American Standard translation orders men to triumph over sin, and you can call sin ignorance. The King James translation makes a promise in ‘Thou shalt,’ meaning that men will surely triumph over sin. But the Hebrew word, the word timshel—‘Thou mayest’— that gives a choice. It might be the most important word in the world. That says the way is open. That throws it right back on a man. For if ‘Thou mayest’—it is also true that ‘Thou mayest not.’ Don’t you see?”

“Yes, I see. I do see. But you do not believe this is divine law. Why do you feel its importance?”

“Ah!” said Lee. “I’ve wanted to tell you this for a long time. I even anticipated your questions and I am well prepared. Any writing which has influenced the thinking and the lives of innumerable people is important. Now, there are many millions in their sects and churches who feel the order, ‘Do thou,’ and throw their weight into obedience. And there are millions more who feel predestination in ‘Thou shalt.’ Nothing they may do can interfere with what will be. But ‘Thou mayest’! Why, that makes a man great, that gives him stature with the gods, for in his weakness and his filth and his murder of his brother he has still the great choice. He can choose his course and fight it through and win.” Lee’s voice was a chant of triumph.

Adam said, “Do you believe that, Lee?”

“Yes, I do. Yes, I do. It is easy out of laziness, out of weakness, to throw oneself into the lap of deity, saying, ‘I couldn’t help it; the way was set.’ But think of the glory of the choice! That makes a man a man. A cat has no choice, a bee must make honey. There’s no godliness there. And do you know, those old gentlemen who were sliding gently down to death are too interested to die now?”

Adam said, “Do you mean these Chinese men believe the Old Testament?”

Lee said, “These old men believe a true story, and they know a true story when they hear it. They are critics of truth. They know that these sixteen verses are a history of humankind in any age or culture or race. They do not believe a man writes fifteen and three-quarter verses of truth and tells a lie with one verb. Confucius tells men how they should live to have good and successful lives. But this—this is a ladder to climb to the stars.” Lee’s eyes shone. “You can never lose that. It cuts the feet from under weakness and cowardliness and laziness.”

Adam said, “I don’t see how you could cook and raise the boys and take care of me and still do all this.”

“Neither do I,” said Lee. “But I take my two pipes in the afternoon, no more and no less, like the elders. And I feel that I am a man. And I feel that a man is a very important thing—maybe more important than a star. This is not theology. I have no bent toward gods. But I have a new love for that glittering instrument, the human soul. It is a lovely and unique thing in the universe. It is always attacked and never destroyed— because ‘Thou mayest.’”
- John Steinbeck, East of Eden
For your perusal, following are various renderings in English of Genesis 4:7. Emphasis mine.
If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must master it." (NIV)

If you do well, will not your countenance be lifted up? And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door; and its desire is for you, but you must master it." (NASB)

God spoke to Cain: "Why this tantrum? Why the sulking? If you do well, won't you be accepted? And if you don't do well, sin is lying in wait for you, ready to pounce; it's out to get you, you've got to master it." (The Message)

If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin crouches at your door; its desire is for you, but you must master it. (Amplified Bible)

You will be accepted if you do what is right. But if you refuse to do what is right, then watch out! Sin is crouching at the door, eager to control you. But you must subdue it and be its master.” (NLT)

If thou doest well, shalt thou not be accepted? and if thou doest not well, sin lieth at the door. And unto thee shall be his desire, and thou shalt rule over him. (KJV)

If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door. Its desire is for you, but you must rule over it." (ESV)

If you had done the right thing, you would be smiling. But you did the wrong thing, and now sin is waiting to attack you like a lion. Sin wants to destroy you, but don't let it! (CEV)

If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin lies at the door. And its desire is for you, but you should rule over it.” (NKJV)

If you do things well, I will accept you, but if you do not do them well, sin is ready to attack you. Sin wants you, but you must rule over it." (New Century Version)

If thou doest well, shall it not be lifted up? and if thou doest not well, sin coucheth at the door: and unto thee shall be its desire, but do thou rule over it. (ASV)

Is there not, if thou dost well, acceptance? and if thou dost not well, at the opening a sin-offering is crouching, and unto thee its desire, and thou rulest over it.' (Young's Literal Translation)

If thou doest well, will not [thy countenance] look up [with confidence]? and if thou doest not well, sin lieth at the door; and unto thee [shall be] his desire, and thou shalt rule over him. (Darby Translation)

If you do right, won't you be accepted? But if you do not do right, sin is crouching at the door. Its desire is for you, but you must master it." (Holman Christian Standard Bible)

Do what is right. Then you will be accepted. If you don't do what is right, sin is waiting at your door to grab you. It longs to have you. But you must rule over it." (New International Reader's Version)

If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it." (Today's New International Version)

Is it not true that if you do what is right, you will be fine? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at the door. It desires to dominate you, but you must subdue it.” (The NET Bible)
Pretty heavy on the imperative, eh? The translation notes in the NET Bible for that final clause in the seventh verse of Genesis 4 show some of the same tension that East of Eden discusses:
tn Heb “and toward you [is] its desire, but you must rule over it.” As in Gen 3:16, the Hebrew noun “desire” refers to an urge to control or dominate. Here the desire is that which sin has for Cain, a desire to control for the sake of evil, but Cain must have mastery over it. The imperfect is understood as having an obligatory sense. Another option is to understand it as expressing potential (“you can have [or “are capable of having”] mastery over it.”). It will be a struggle, but sin can be defeated by righteousness. In addition to this connection to Gen 3, other linguistic and thematic links between chaps. 3 and 4 are discussed by A. J. Hauser, “Linguistic and Thematic Links Between Genesis 4:1-6 and Genesis 2–3,” JETS 23 (1980): 297-306.
I am currently slowly working my way through Robert Alter's translation of the Pentateuch, The Five Books of Moses: A Translation with Commentary. He renders verse 7 as actual verse (emphasis again mine):
"Why are you incensed,
  and why is your face fallen?
For whether you offer well,
  or whether you do not,
at the tent flap sin crouches
  and for you is its longing
    but you will rule over it."
Here is Alter's commentary:
6-7. This is the first of two engimatic and probably quite archaic poems in the chapter. God's initial words pick up the two locutions for dejection of the immediately preceding narrative report and turn them into the parallel utterences of formal verse. The first clause of verse 7 is particularly elliptic in the Hebrew, and thus any construction is no more than an educated guess. The narrative context of the sacrifices may suggest that the cryptic s'eit (elsewhere, "preeminence") might be related to mas'eit, a gift or cultic offering.
May you have a good day!

Saturday, November 8, 2008

Not as divided as we're led to believe

We've all heard about "red" and "blue" states and how polarized the country is. Frankly, I don't like such talk, and while I think the nattering classes in politics and journalism want us to be polarized (because that's what gives them their jobs), it just doesn't seem like it plays out that way in the real world. Most of us just live and work and raise families and leave each other alone. Every four years perhaps our neighbors put signs in their yard that lead us to think, "WTF?", but other than that, there just isn't much visible sign of "a house divided".

Professor Mark Newman of the University of Michigan has two excellent pages on how "red" and "blue" are actually ends of a spectrum. I highly recommend going and reading them, especially this year's results, because they are eye opening. Here is the 2008 version of the standard "red/blue split" picture we're all sick of:


Wow, looks like we're ready for another Civil War, doesn't it?

But wait, that is a geographical map which distorts because much of the U.S. is still pretty sparsely populated. Here's another look as a cartogram based on state population:


Looks a bit different, eh? But still just "red/blue", "true/false", "on/off". It turns out that you really have to look at it by county, and even then you need to start grading based on the percentage of Republican vs. Democrat voters. To do that Professor Newman mixes the red and blue into shades of purple:


Hmmm...not quite as divided as we thought, perhaps. And let's look one last time with those counties projected onto a population-based cartogram:
Look at all that glorious purple. Sure, there are large dollops of blue and webs of red tangled throughout, but much of the country is just...a mixture. You could say we're all mixed up. And that's a Very Good Thing, because bad things happen when people all think alike. Then they start convincing themselves that they're always correct. Nothing is more dangerous than a human that believes themselves never wrong. So I like to see that we're not really dividing into "red vs. blue", "right vs. wrong", "us vs. them". Because as a student of history I am very concerned about such divisions and such divisiveness. Words have a way of getting out of control and causing people to follow them into war.

So maybe you consider yourself "blue" and exclaim "Better dead than red!" (ah, how times change :o). Or maybe you're a die-hard "red" who thinks the world just ended. Whatever. I, personally, am a nice shade of indigo, a mish-mash of ideas and contradictions. And I like it that way. I like my country that way, too. Because it's more interesting. And because it's more resilient to be that way.

Peace, my red, blue and especially purple friends.

Can you "cheat" on your church?

Last year I posted a question on whether it is possible to be a part of more than one "church family" at once. I personally still think the answer is "yes", although the reaction in the comments was mixed. Earlier this week I stumbled across the following at Lark News and thought it was both funny and to the point. Excerpts follow, but go read the whole thing:


ENCINO, Calif. — William Dunbar, head usher at Encino Open Bible Church, shocked his church recently when he confessed he was maintaining a separate church family in Seattle.

"We were devastated to hear about his other, secret church family," says his Encino pastor. "To know that he’s been sneaking off to another congregation in an entirely different city, enjoying their worship and serving in their community — it’s been hard to take."

Dunbar, a CPA, began traveling frequently to Seattle eight years ago for business, and visited churches while there. He unexpectedly "fell in love" with Seattle First Evangelical Free Church and began establishing a relationship with it.

"I was torn," he says. "When I was home in Encino, I loved that church. But in Seattle I was having these wonderful times of worship that nobody else knew about."

The Seattle church soon asked him to serve as usher, then head usher. Dunbar says he couldn’t resist though he knew it was wrong.

"The new relationships, the different approach to ministry — it made me feel young again," he says.

...

"It rattles you when a double life is lived right in front of you and you don’t even suspect it," says the group leader. "I’m especially upset that William participated in an accountability group in Seattle. Talk about breaking trust."

Dunbar says he loved both churches and feels terrible that he betrayed the trust of both. As part of his restoration process he has promised to sever ties completely with the Seattle church and never visit it again.

"I shouldn’t have lived a secret life, and I’m sorry," he said in an open letter to the Encino church.
So...Is church supposed to be like that? Exclusive, like marriage? Is being involved with activities in another church akin to adultery? I think not. I sometimes think the big drive to keep everyone locked into a single church is simply greed - don't want to lose those tithes! don't want to lose those volunteers!

Now, admittedly there is another side to this whole story. Last year Pastor Dan commented on my post that it is different for small churches like his with ess than 100 members, and I can see that. In those communities each person is important, and "losing" one can have a large impact. However, even then I don't see it as a zero sum game. If you read my original post, you'd notice that I didn't want to transfer my membership to the other church, I just wanted to volunteer in their program because it struck me as better than anything our church does or would do.

So, again - can someone be part of two church families or not? I say, "Yes!"