This morning while writing an email to a friend, I came up with the following. It may not be original, but it's original to me; I don't think I've heard it before, so I'm claiming it:
"If you have to make a pros-and-cons list to decide, then it already sucks."
Meaning the cons have already won. Because if you're making a decision about something important and you're in a place where the choices have you feeling wishy-washy and you don't see an obvious answer then you're either considering the wrong thing, asking the wrong question or deciding at the wrong time. Perhaps you're being forced to. As my friend Jim is fond of saying, "Being an adult is having to make hard choices from limited options with limited data in a limited amount of time and deal with the consequences." And that's true. But I am not talking about that.
What my observation is about is when you have to decide about something that's fundamentally important to you, something life-changing. Look at it this way - do you think anyone would do a pro/con list for choosing whom to marry? No, I think we'd all laugh at that. Yet there are often other decisions just as important that people make up their minds about basically because they weighed out the best. But where's the passion and commitment in that? Look at how many people decide their careers using that process and end up hating what they do.
"Why did you go into accounting?"
"Well, there was a need in the market and I am good with numbers and my parents thought it would get me a job so that's what I picked."
"Are you happy doing it?"
"What, are you kidding? It's a miserable job."
I think one of the things we owe God for the life He gives us is passion. He doesn't want us to just muddle through life making choices because the pros scored "6" vs. the "5" in the cons column.
What do you think? Are there any important choices you're making or have made based on a 6-to-5 outcome? Why?